Chapter 9 - MY FATHER’S GARAGE
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Dad’s garage had always been his church.
Tools arranged by size.
Old fishing rods.
Oil stains.
One metal cabinet full of things he never threw away.
After restitution agreement, he sold his truck and some collectibles.
I came over to help carry boxes.
He did not ask me to replace anything.
That mattered.
He opened cabinet.
Inside was my old baseball glove.
The one he had mentioned to Lucas.
Also Derek’s football trophies.
And a shoebox.
Dad sat.
“You should see.”
Inside were letters from both of us as kids.
Report cards.
Photos.
One page I wrote at eleven.
Dear Dad, I don’t like when you make fun of me when I cry. I try not to but sometimes it happens.
I stared.
I had forgotten.
“What did you do when you got this?”
Dad looked away.
“I told you to stop being dramatic.”
Memory returned.
I had left note on his workbench.
He handed it back.
Said real men do not write complaints.
Then I stopped.
Dad cried.
“I trained you not to tell me things.”
“Yes.”
“And Derek?”
“He learned different lesson.”
“What?”
“That if someone complains, shame them until they stop.”
Dad covered face.
That was family seed.
Then:
“I thought my father made me strong.”
Grandpa Frank? Dad's father perhaps harsher.
He told story.
At eight, Frank broke wrist falling tree.
His father made him finish chores before doctor.
At thirteen, mother died.
His father said:
“We don't fall apart.”
No funeral tears.
At seventeen, Frank got punched at school; father told him if he came home without hitting back, sleep porch.
Violence as strength.
Frank repeated softer version.
No physical abuse maybe, but emotional.
Then Derek intensified in corporate setting.
Generational.
Explanation not excuse.
Dad said:
“I’m scared Lucas will hate me.”
“Maybe.”
He looked hurt.
“But his feelings are not punishment. He gets to decide.”
“I know.”
Then:
“What can I do?”
“Be safe.”
“How?”
“Don’t make him manage your guilt.”
Dad nodded.
Specific.
“Don’t tell him you’re old.”
He laughed sadly.
“Don’t tell him family needs forgiveness.”
“Okay.”
“Don’t buy giant replacement panda.”
He had considered.
“Okay.”
Then:
“Show up when invited.”
He could.
Then Dad asked:
“Can I keep these letters?”
“They’re yours.”
That phrase.
His property.
No issue.
Then we talked about Derek.
Dad had not spoken for weeks.
“He calls.”
“Do you answer?”
“Sometimes.”
“What says?”
“Blames.”
Then:
“He says you turned company against him.”
“What do you say?”
“I used to agree.”
That hurt.
“And now?”
“I tell him he forged emails.”
Good.
“He says that was because HR already decided.”
Still.
Then Dad said:
“He asked me for money.”
“What did you do?”
“No.”
I looked at him.
First time.
“What did he say?”
“Know your place.”
My stomach tightened.
Same phrase? Not previously. Could be.
Dad laughed bitterly.
“He said fathers help sons.”
Family duty.
“How’d it feel?”
“Like hearing myself.”
There.
Derek had learned pressure.
Dad finally experienced target.
Then:
“I told him I can help find lawyer resources, not pay.”
Healthy.
Derek hung up.
Then Dad said:
“I think I made him believe being loved meant being protected from consequences.”
Important.
He had rescued Derek repeatedly.
Job losses.
Fights.
Debts.
Every time Derek harmed, Dad focused on outcome to Derek.
So Derek never learned other people’s pain mattered equally.
Then I asked:
“Did you do same with me?”
Dad thought.
“No.”
Why?
“You never got in trouble.”
Exactly.
I did not need rescue.
So Dad equated love with rescuing Derek.
Virgil got pride, not care.
Stable child again.
Then he said:
“I’m sorry I came to your porch to ask you save him before I asked Lucas if he was okay.”
That line.
Yes.
Maybe deepest.
I nodded.
“Thank you.”
Then we closed garage.
Dad handed me the baseball glove.
“No.”
He said:
“It’s yours.”
I took.
Not as symbol of masculinity.
Memory.
At home, Lucas tried glove.
Too big.
He laughed.
“Grandpa’s comfort thing?”
“Mine.”
“Do you sleep with it?”
“No.”
“Could.”
I smiled.
“I could.”
May you like
He put Bao inside glove like a bed.
For first time, the object from my childhood became something playful instead of proof.
